I'm 6'3", and was about 235 lbs in this picture (I'm about 10 lbs heavier now). Plenty of that was fat, but apparently either I hide it well or people are very polite about it (probably the former) because nobody sees me as fat, they see me as some big cop/soldier/bouncer type (which I utterly hate). Last night my roommate's friend kept going on about how "huge" I was - he didn't say fat and he didn't say muscular, so I didn't take it to mean either way, but it bothered me a great deal.I'm guessing from looking in the mirror that I'm screwed as far as getting rid of my upper body to some extent...I'd love to have narrower shoulders and a more "straight up and down" look, and I don't like it that the FEW girls I've attracted talked about how "safe" and "protected" they felt with me.
What kind of build do I have? Am I always going to be seen as a big guy?
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Elizabeth - you look like a muscular build, you dont look fat
ReplyDeleteAlix - Don't worry about the "huge" comment. They were probably referring to your height. My father is 6'4" and muscular/slender and gets that all the time.
ReplyDeleteMany women are attracted to wide shoulders. Its one of the most common attributes me and my girlfriends talk about. Just like how men look for an hourglass shape in women, many women look for a V in men. Large shoulders and slender hips.
Just from reading your post, I think the real problem is that you are insecure. Most everyone is. Accept yourself. Tall and strong is not a bad thing!